tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post6065489830515331520..comments2023-03-23T13:26:49.422+00:00Comments on little feathers: Cut up, come out: I'm scared.hollyalyxfinchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04220674516189575642noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post-20928240011094010752009-08-06T23:06:18.091+01:002009-08-06T23:06:18.091+01:00I agree with the first few posts hun. The support ...I agree with the first few posts hun. The support officer sounds like the ideal person to be with you for moral support. I also think you need to tell them as soon as possible. Your parents have already shown you how much they love you with all the support they've given you throughout everything that's happened. They love you because you're their daughter, and will not judge you. We, your digital family, will always be here to support you as well. Good luck hun. You know where I am :) xxclareh83https://www.blogger.com/profile/08251477266389807621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post-25990534059678132372009-08-06T21:24:39.281+01:002009-08-06T21:24:39.281+01:00My friend whos bi wrote her parents a letter and s...My friend whos bi wrote her parents a letter and stayed with a friend for a couple of days. You need to do what you feel is right.How you feel it would be taken best, a letter will be better for you as like you mentioned you wont have to see their faces,they wont butt in and such,But then there is the fact that theyre your parents,and they might feel upset that you couldnt talk to them.Im not trying to sound mean now but if your mum cant even find a little understanding beacuse of her religion shes not a good mum,And i know thats a harsh thing to say,But if a mother is prepared to let their daughter feel like a religion is being chose over her thats just not right.<br />sorry ive not been much help. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post-58427617164331686362009-08-06T16:29:06.878+01:002009-08-06T16:29:06.878+01:00I totally agree with what everyone has said above....I totally agree with what everyone has said above. Definitely sooner rather than later, definitely at home not in London, definitely with someone there - ideally your friendly cop - who can step in to keep things on track. Also try to get them to agree that you can finish what you need to say before they start with any questions.<br /><br />As a parent myself, my view is that they brought you into the world and obviously love you to bits and want what's best for you. This will not change that - of course they will still love you. As do we on Twitter!<br /><br />Everything you put in your post you should say to them: let them know you worried about them as much as they have worried about you. Let them know you love them, just as they love you. <br /><br />I'll be thinking of you hun. I'm here if you need any support.Geoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17594099878205290993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post-16257739175311687822009-08-06T13:38:31.569+01:002009-08-06T13:38:31.569+01:00Holly sweetheart, you have to tell them as soon as...Holly sweetheart, you have to tell them as soon as possible.<br /><br />I know you're worried about their reaction, but once it's out then that is one major hurdle done with before the 23rd Sept, and you will feel much better when they know about your sexuality.<br /><br />If you definitely feel you need support then your choice of the SOLO officer is the best option because they will have dealt with these situations before. <br />I don't know how old your parents are, but you may find that they are considerably more understanding than you could have hoped.<br /><br />BobBerghBobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15274127830350276088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post-88894553082959579952009-08-06T11:33:39.000+01:002009-08-06T11:33:39.000+01:00To an extent you've already answered yourself ...To an extent you've already answered yourself as to the "how" and the "who" - your Police Officer friend is the ideal person to take with you when you tell your parents. As aparent myself, I only hope that if my daughter had something major to confess to, or tell me, she would have the guts to do it in person, rather than in a letter. Personally I feel that's the cowards way out, but that's just me.<br />As far as your mother's Faith goes, if she is in any way true to it, she will not judge you, or condemn you. Coming from a religious family myself, I can tell you that the proper "christian" attitude is to "hate the sin, not the sinner". Anyone who says otherwise is a hypocrite (sorry if this offends! LOL), as according to the Christian faith, all are equally bad - the murder is no different from the theft, or the curse-word. The important thing is that you are sorry, and try not to do it again.<br />If your mother and father love you as much as I hope they do, given their support through everything you've gone through, it will not make the slightest bit of difference to them what your sexuality is - it may even make them understand just how hard it has all been.<br />I hope everything goes well when you tell them, but one last bit of advice - make it sooner rather than later. Don't put it off any longer than you have to.<br />I hope this helps you, you know where I am if you need any support.<br />Ewan. (stonefences on Twitter)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4487840415426617998.post-12128240487133595652009-08-06T11:26:33.794+01:002009-08-06T11:26:33.794+01:00Holly, I think that you should sit them down toget...Holly, I think that you should sit them down together with you and speak to them. It's how I did it with my family. If you do want the support, ask the police officer, because, as you said, she would be a better support on an impartial basis. I know your scared, so was I, but you will feel a lot better when it has been said. Remember to keep control of the situation. Allow them to run off with a mountain of questions and it will get worse. As for time, well, you should do it soon, otherwise, regardless of court, your own health will be affected leaving it too long. Speak to the officer, get her to come over for support, and let things take it's course. Don't forget that we are all here for you, the guys at twitter, your friends, family in some cases.<br /><br />One more thing. We are who we are, sexuality should not stop a parents love.<br /><br />Good luck Holly.AzraelAngelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06459418377058142160noreply@blogger.com